Attachment Style Test
Find out whether your pattern in close relationships is secure, anxious, avoidant or fearful — and what that pattern is trying to do for you.
24 questions · about 5 minutes · Free · No sign-up · Answers never leave your device
24 questions · about 5 minutes
Find out whether your pattern in close relationships is secure, anxious, avoidant or fearful — and what that pattern is trying to do for you.
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For entertainment and self-reflection. This is not a diagnosis — see the disclaimer below.
Explore the results
Every result in this test has a full written guide — what it means, its strengths and watch-outs, and how it plays out in relationships and at work.
About this test
Attachment theory began with John Bowlby's work on the bond between children and caregivers, and Mary Ainsworth's research on how that bond organises itself into patterns: children learn, from how care arrives, what to expect from closeness. Later researchers — notably Cindy Hazan and Phillip Shaver, and then Chris Fraley and colleagues — extended the framework to adult romantic relationships, where the same expectations quietly shape how we reach for people, read their signals and handle distance.
This test asks 24 everyday relationship scenarios — a slow reply, a cancelled plan, a partner asking for space, needing comfort, meeting the friends — and tallies which pattern your choices point to most often: secure, anxious, avoidant or fearful. Each style is a strategy for staying safe in closeness, learned somewhere and carried forward. None of them is a verdict on your worth as a partner, and most people recognise traces of more than one in themselves.
Who is it for? Anyone who has noticed a repeating shape to their relationships: always the one who worries, always the one who withdraws, always braced for the ending. Seeing the pattern named is often the useful part — a pattern you can see is a pattern you can work with, in conversation with a partner or simply in how you interpret the next slow reply.
How scoring works
Attachment researchers commonly describe adult attachment with two underlying dimensions. The first is closeness anxiety: how strongly you monitor a bond for signs of loss, and how much reassurance you need to feel settled in it. The second is closeness avoidance: how comfortable you are depending on someone and being depended on, versus keeping your needs private and self-managed. Every style in this test is a combination of those two dials.
Secure is low on both: closeness is neither chased nor fled. Anxious is high anxiety with low avoidance — you move towards closeness and watch it closely. Avoidant is low anxiety with high avoidance — you are not preoccupied with being left, but you keep dependence to a minimum. Fearful is high on both — you want the bond and brace against it at once. Each of this test's 24 questions offers one answer written for each style, and your result is the style your answers pointed to most often, with your runner-up shown as the blend.
Source: Informed by attachment research in the Bowlby and Ainsworth tradition and the two-dimension model behind the ECR questionnaire (Fraley and colleagues). All items on this page are original scenario questions written for TestLark; no published questionnaire items are reproduced. This test is a self-reflection tool, not a clinical assessment. Read the full methodology →
The result types
Secure
Your answers point to a secure pattern: you are broadly comfortable being close and broadly comfortable being apart. You can ask for comfort without shame, offer it without keeping accounts, and treat most ruptures — a slow reply, a cancelled plan, a sharp word — as weather rather than climate. Secure does not mean unbothered; it means setbacks register at their real size, and repair feels possible because, in your experience, it usually is.
Full Secure guide →Anxious
Your answers point to an anxious pattern: closeness matters a great deal to you, and your attention is tuned, sensitively, to its signals. A slow reply, a distracted evening, a plan changed — these register quickly and can feel larger than they were meant to. This pattern is not neediness as a character flaw; it is a protection strategy learned somewhere along the way, one that says: watch the bond closely, reach early, and never be caught unprepared by losing it. The watching is exhausting precisely because the caring is real.
Full Anxious guide →Avoidant
Your answers point to an avoidant pattern: you prize independence, handle difficulty largely inside your own head, and feel most at ease when closeness arrives in amounts you can regulate. Heavy emotional demands, being needed constantly, or pressure to open up on someone else's schedule are more likely to make you step back than lean in. This is not an absence of feeling or of care. It is a protection strategy — one that learned early that needs are safest when they are small, private and self-met.
Full Avoidant guide →Fearful
Your answers point to a fearful pattern: you want closeness, often intensely, and at the same time you expect it to hurt. You may move towards people with real hope, then pull back when they matter enough to be able to disappoint you — not from indifference, but from a forecast that says letting someone in ends with being let down. Two protections are running at once: reach for the bond, and prepare for its loss. The contradiction is the pattern, not a failure to make up your mind.
Full Fearful guide →Frequently asked questions
How accurate is this attachment style test?
It is a carefully built self-reflection tool, not a clinical measurement. The four-style model is a simplified map of a well-researched framework, and most people recognise their pattern in the result — but a 24-question quiz cannot capture how much attachment varies between relationships and across a lifetime. Answer with your usual pattern in close relationships, rather than your most recent one, and the result will be noticeably truer.
Is this a diagnosis?
No. This test is for entertainment and self-reflection only. An attachment style is a description of tendencies in relationships, not a diagnosis of a disorder, and no result here should be used for medical, psychological or employment decisions. If relationships are causing you real distress, a therapist who works with attachment can offer something a quiz cannot: an assessment in context, and support that responds to you personally.
Are my answers private?
Completely. The test runs entirely in your browser: your answers are never sent to a server, never stored in an account and never shared. Closing the tab clears everything. Given that these questions touch on how you love and what you fear, we would not have it any other way.
Why did I get a different result on another site?
Sites write different questions, weight them differently and draw the four styles' boundaries in different places. Your own answers also shift with context: many people are secure with friends, anxious with a particular partner and avoidant at work, because attachment is partly a property of a relationship, not only of a person. If a result feels wrong, retake it thinking of your most typical close relationship rather than your easiest or hardest one.
What should I do with my result?
Use it as a map of your protection strategy, not a label to live under. Read your style's strengths and watch-outs, pick one growth suggestion and try it in a real moment — asking plainly instead of testing, staying five minutes longer instead of withdrawing, naming the flinch instead of acting on it. The result is most valuable shared: a partner who knows your pattern can stop taking its signals personally.
Can my attachment style change?
Yes. Researchers call the change 'earned security': patterns formed early can soften and reorganise through later experience — steady relationships, honest friendships and, for many people, therapy. Change is usually gradual and built from repeated small evidence that closeness can be survived and repaired. A result today describes your current default settings, not your permanent ones.
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Disclaimer: This test is for entertainment and self-reflection only. It is not a diagnosis and is not medical or psychological advice. Read the full disclaimer →